The Inner Workings of a Law Firm

The Inner Workings of a Law Firm

Three First Steps to Take If You're Considering a Mediated Divorce

by Jo Rodriquez

Although a divorce always has the potential to involve some uncomfortable discussions, choosing mediation can help reduce any unpleasantness and ensure the most beneficial outcome for everyone. Here are three steps to take in order to get the process started on the right foot. 

1. Decide if this is truly the best choice for your situation (and get your spouse on board)

In order for a mediated divorce to work, you have to not only have a relatively amicable relationship with your spouse still, but you also need to be in a place emotionally where you don't automatically disagree with everything they say. The mediated divorce process requires you both to make compromises in order to achieve a fair settlement without involving the court. This means not everything can go your way and not everything can go your spouse's way. If you're not comfortable with being part of the decision-making process in this situation, you may not be emotionally able to participate in a mediated divorce. And your spouse needs to be ready to participate amicably as well in order for the process to work.    

2. Find the right people to help you through the process

In addition to finding a reputable, well-trained, and highly-rated mediator, you need to consider whether you'll have lawyers involved in the process. The mediator is, by definition, a neutral third party, and not able to give legal advice to either you or your spouse because that could be construed as taking sides. So, once you've agreed on the right mediator, discuss with your spouse whether you'll each have a lawyer or not and whether the lawyers will be present at the mediation sessions.  

3. Prepare your thoughts and documents for the mediation sessions

You'll need to think deeply about which parts of the settlement are the most important to you. Are you willing to bargain away the material assets you and your spouse share, but unwilling to part with the dog? Is custody of the children your main concern? Write out any concerns you want to bring up during the mediation session so that you don't accidentally let the entire session go by without mentioning them. You'll also need to make sure you have financial documents prepared so the mediator can help you and your spouse go through them and decide on a fair settlement.  

These three steps will help you get ready for the process of a mediated divorce. Remember to analyze your own situation carefully before choosing this avenue; if there's any possibility that physical, emotional, verbal, or psychological abuse is involved, mediated divorce is not the answer and you need to get yourself and your children out of the situation right away.  


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The Inner Workings of a Law Firm

We all know that lawyers are professionals who help people interpret and work with the law, but do you know how a law firm works from the inside out? I am a professional paralegal, and I have worked in both large and small law firms during my career. I can tell you that a successful law firm needs more than just lawyers to keep it running smoothly, and sometimes things can get really crazy! Take a tour through a law firm in my blog, and find out what really goes on behind the scenes of an active and successful law firm.